I pray you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving! Be thankful to God for all He has done for you and will do. Be thankful for great family and friends. Be thankful for life. I am thankful to have some great followers on so many platforms, a wonderful family to visit, a beautiful wife, a new son coming soon and look forward to what God has planned. Have a great day!
Thursday, November 22, 2012
Monday, November 19, 2012
MAN UP! -Book Review
MAN UP! BECOMING A GODLY MAN IN AN UNGODLY WORLD is a book I recently had the pleasure of reading. The book was written by author and speaker Jody Burkeen. The book starts out with a powerful testimony about the journey Jody had to go through to truly find God. It's a testimony of a man fighting false desires and continually going up against the strikes of the enemy. A testimony of truth and honesty. He fought many of the battles we men face each and everyday and he didn't sugar coat it. In Jody's own words he had to MAN UP and stop being a spiritual sissy!
The book is divided up into some powerful, faith packed chapters. He doesn't just point out the life of Christ, but he points out how we are to mold our life after Christ. This applies in so many areas and Jody nails them in this book. He doesn't stop there though. He takes each chapter and asks some hard and relevant questions. Questions that demand answers from every man! Here is a brief outline of the chapters.
TIME TO MAN UP PERSONALLY
MAN UP IN YOUR MARRIAGE
MAN UP IN YOUR FATHERHOOD
MAN UP IN YOUR CHURCH
MAN UP AT WORK
MAN UP AND BE ACCOUNTABLE
MAN UP AND BE A DISCIPLE
PUT UP OR SHUT UP
As you can see these chapters go right to the heart of the man. The core. He takes each chapter and gives you great examples and explains how to apply them to your life. The questions at the end are the cherries on top. They bring the entire chapter together and ultimately into your personal life. Don't let these questions go unanswered; don't skip them and move on. Take ten minutes, grab and pen and paper and have a heart check. Pray and see where you stand with God on the issues brought up in each chapter. As Jody would say, Stop being a Spiritual Sissy and Man Up!
The book doesn't end at the last chapter though. Jody does something great and asks you for more. As men, we all want more; but we have to make sure we want the right things. Well 30 days beyond the book chapters is the "more" we need. Develop your personal testimony, read the scriptures, keep a journal and PRAY! Sounds easy enough, right? There is also an Accountability Covenant near the back of the book. You'll have to read Chapter 6 to learn more about that. This by the way is my second favorite chapter, next to MAN UP AND BE A DISCIPLE.
I encourage everyone to check out this book. It's a short, easy read that is packed with some powerful life changing material. Read the first part of the book here for free and click the picture below to pick yourself up a copy. Now MAN UP!
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Thursday, November 15, 2012
The Priority Challenge!
A big part of spiritual maturity is consistency and consistency requires discipline. Recently I have run into some brothers in Christ that have been struggling. By struggling, I mean they just can't get their thoughts straight and are lacking discipline in their daily walk. The issues can stem from current situations, past struggles, or the daily events of their world getting in the way. At first, I didn't know how to approach this issue. What do they mean they don't have time to focus on God? How can they be so consistent in worldly things, but have no time or interest in the things from the Father? I prayed about it for awhile and thought back to the time I was struggling with my thoughts and so much more. Then I remembered my TOP TEN list. This was a list I developed over the course of a few months on my path to spiritual maturity. I made it because my priorities in life were not in order. To be honest, I probably could not have even named off ten items at the time. I was buried in a deep hole of depression and past struggle and I knew I needed a change.
This is not a post to make you comment or reflect on something. This is a post to challenge you! It comes down to a simple question that demands answers "What are your top ten priorities in life?" Simple right? I know you can probably think of a couple to get you started, but don't take the easy route with this one. Don't fake your answers. Don't fluff up your answers and write what should be your priorities; get real with yourself and be honest. These things are most likely what you think about most in the day. These are things that must be very important to you. Part of the challenge is that you have to write the answers down! Once you have your Top Ten list established, than come up with your "why" for each point. Why are these things important to you? Why do they take up so much time in your life? The beauty of this process is honesty. The list will show you who you are in the background and what the result is when people see or encounter you.
Once you have the list and you have your reasons. Share them with somebody. Tell the person about the list and just have them listen to you. No commentary. No strange looks. No opinions. This is a crucial part of the process. This part will make you formulate the ideas into words. You will most likely say more than what you wrote down. This could be the part of the process where you can finally understand why it's so important or you can realize how futile it really is. You'll find things of importance bundling up. Relationships? Goals? Struggles? After the process is through; you'll have learned quite a bit about yourself. You'll know where you need to make changes or you'll know what's right where it is suppose to be. Clarity. You'll see if your life is reflecting the life God intended for you or if you're living for yourself.
-THE CHALLENGE-
List your Top Ten priorities in life.
Write down the details of why they are a priority.
Share them with someone.
Make necessary changes or Stay put. You'll know.
If you do the challenge. Come back and share your thoughts
or just share your thoughts on the idea.
don't have time? Priorities...
Monday, November 12, 2012
Manly Spiritual Maturity
So what does manhood or being manly have to do with Spiritual Maturity? If you asked me a few years ago, I probably would have fought this idea saying that "I am a man already" or "I can be mature, even if I'm not being a good Christian". Of course, now, I would say I was very immature in general and spiritually. The hard fact is that I am much more mature now that I am truly following Christ and I make it a daily effort to do even better. So men, where does it start? When do you know you either are being a spiritually mature man or you need to start? Some guys might wait until they finally move out of the house. Some guys might think it's after they landed that first big job. Some think it's when you get married (I know for a fact that that is not true). Some men might wait until their wife drops an emotional bomb on them or even leaves them. Some men might wake up after this or just move on doing what they do. Where does it begin?
DISCIPLESHIP
Definition? A follower of the doctrines of a teacher or a school of thought.
Let's be honest, we are all a disciple of something. We all come from different backgrounds, different teachers, different parents and different beliefs. We may have been taught how to be a man from our Father, a close mentor or just by what we have observed over the years. Some of us learned the discipline basics early in life. For me, it was taking out the trash weekly. It was mowing the lawn weekly. And it was listening to my fathers instruction as it was handed out. Your teachers at your school and college. Your boss and coworkers now. All of this has influenced you and shaped who you are now. But are you really being a man? Are you really spiritually mature? When you look up the word Disciple, you get a couple standard definitions and then you get the definition of a follower of Christ. Stop and think about the disciples of Christ. Whether you are a Christian or not, you have most likely heard the stories of Christ and his 12 disciples. These were the men that dropped everything for Jesus. Without going too deep with their stories, you can see how a disciple must make a change. He must acknowledge that their is a right and wrong way and make a choice. In the disciples cases, they chose to be Spiritually Mature and follow Jesus wherever he desired to go. Are you willing to even drop one thing?
Personally I grew up knowing about Christ, but that was as far as it went. I could talk the talk, shake the hands and play the part. My father is a great man, but he showed me no example of being a real follower of Christ. He taught me key values in life that took me far, but still life required more. Life hit me after I got married. This was the time when I was required to be more mature. I had a wife, a new job and thought life was mine for the taking. Read 'Why the Train Tracks' to hear how I finally began my path to Spiritual Maturity. Think about it, you're living for something already. But what is it? Following Christ, thirsting for spiritual maturity and being His disciple turned out to be the manliest thing I could have ever done. Confidence issues? Christ can change it. Marriage issues? Christ can change that too. Work issues? Yep, you guessed right, Christ can change that too. Depression? Fear? Failure? I could go on for awhile, but I think you get the idea.
Be a man. Be a disciple. Lead by following.
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Thursday, November 8, 2012
What is "Spiritual Maturity"?
Spiritual Maturity. Its part of the main theme for Manturity, but what does it really mean? My goal will be to take the next few posts and review spiritual maturity and what it takes to get there and stay there.
Lately I have been using some avenues on Social Media to ask different ideas and opinions. The responses, although they were few, were great and to the point. The first response was from the author Jody Burkeen from MAN UP! Gods Way; he referenced the verses from 2 Peter 1:5-15. I never used these verses in reference to maturity before, but he sure gave me some things to think about. By the way, I am reading his book and it's pretty awesome. I hope to have a review coming out soon this month. Anyway, the verses go something like this:
5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; 7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. 8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins.
If you need to, read it again. (Maybe a couple times more for good understanding measures :). Whoa! I'll attempt to go over this in a short, but effective manner. Make EVERY effort to add to your Faith. I don't think I read "when it's convenient, add to your faith". Make EVERY effort to add to your knowledge! This is asking us to go beyond the Sunday sermon and really seek out who the Lord was and still is. Make EVERY effort to add to your self control! This isn't talking about controlling some of your self; it's talking about all of yourself. This includes but is not limited to your physical behavior and your emotions. This includes when you are with people and when you are alone. Your actions should be pleasing to Christ. Make EVERY effort to add to your Godliness, mutual affection and love. You should be seeking to know more about God daily. Seeking to experience his Love and Affection for us and how we can translate that into our actions with other people. In the end, these things will keep you "up to par" and productive in the sight of the Lord and others. They will not be easy to maintain daily, but they are worth every minute trying. Don't be blind in your actions or emotions, don't forget what Christ has done for you and continue to follow his path and mature.
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Sunday, November 4, 2012
An Honest Struggle
NOTE: Here at Manturity we aim to be
spiritually mature and give all the glory to the Father. This post does not necessarily reflect any opinions of Manturity. I asked a friend and brother in
Christ of mine to share his thoughts on issues pertaining to the upcoming
election. It should be noted that he does not hold the Bible to be infallible or
inerrant yet believes that all scriptures were inspired by the Holy Spirit and
that every passage should be viewed through the lens of hermeneutics and
exegesis.
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With the election upon
us, I was asked to take the opportunity to share my ideas and concerns about
the election. I am also very interested in hearing your thoughts and ideas on
the matters and issues. Being as I am a Christian man, I want to keep God at
the forefront of my thoughts and opinions. With as much humility as possible, I
have been blessed with a photographic memory and an IQ in the 95th
percentile worldwide. Of course, with great gifts comes along weaknesses; I
have no artistic or musical talent, and I find myself socially awkward because
I interrupt people thinking I know what they are going to say next. On the
other hand, I am able to understand viewpoints and opinions very well. I spend
half of my time between watching FOX and CNN. I understand 94% of Americans
hold diametrically opposite views on politics and the future - the fact is that
we are all selfish. Take Mitt Romney's comment about the 47%: he was lambasted
for telling the truth. Those people will never even listen to him because they
are scared something will be taken away from them. But the opposite is true
also: 47% of people will never give Obama a chance because he wants to take
something from them in the form of increased energy prices and taxes and
regulations.
Personally, I'm still
undecided who to vote for. I'd prefer libertarian federalists, conservative
statists, and liberal localists. I don't have an option to have my way. What do
I do? What matters most? I won't give you any talking points... You've heard
the lies from both sides a trillion times. Politics bring out the worst in men
and women and I long for a day of being ruled by a divine personality who isn't
subject to lies, distortion and greedy power needs (Jesus will come again soon we think… but even he doesn’t know the timing
so how can we?) It's obvious that this election will set the stage for
the next 20 years minimum - the time my kids will be growing up into adulthood.
Speaking of my children, I will start off the main topics with long verses
short term planning.
My strategy is to ask
questions. Why? Jesus used questions and parables because they force people to
think. Universal truths are timeless and not dependent on current social
paradigms. If you start thinking about a topic and you honestly seek an answer
from God, he is faithful to provide it in a way that is personally valuable to
you. I'm not going to manipulate or coerce you into doing/voting either way. I
don't intend to shock and awe but to get you thinking - like Jesus did.
NOTE: Main topics are highlighted for ease
of use; feel free to read all or pick your points accordingly.
FUTURE PLANNING
Clearly Jesus is the
visible image of the invisible Father. The Father is not male or female. God
creates personalities, he's the father of making and enjoying individuals -
individuals concerned with righteous justice ministry (R type Christians) and
social mercy ministry (D type Christians). Rest assured that God loves both
Republicans and Democrats. Jesus performed both types of ministry! That's why
he wants people to partner with him in prayer - he relates to us personally on
the level of the mind he’s given us. For his joy in his creation. It's always
about personal relationships and there is no doubt that better relationships
must exist between democrats and republicans for the benefit of the country.
Do we plan 5
generations from now? 10? 20? Or do we only plan for 1 so that our direct kids
have easier lives? Throughout history people have had wars and rumors of wars
and it doesn't appear that a whole lot of long range planning has taken place. America did it
through our beautiful and intelligent Constitution. The problem is that our
Constitution isn't followed much at all today. But things change and Amendments
have happened and Departments of this and that have been "Mandated"
by either Congress or Judges. Could a new way be a better way for the good of
the world and not just the good of America ? Do we have a
responsibility for world affairs or the affairs inside our borders only? Again,
there are big differences in platforms in this argument between D and R.
In my opinion,
Democrats are much better for further future planning and for the World.
Republicans are much better for the here and now and for America . But
what world do I want my kids to live in? I can't decide.
Republicans irritate
me because they complain about some higher costs while sitting in oversized
houses with financed expensive vehicles and many other 'things' they're afraid
to lose for self worth reasons. Democrats irritate me because they complain
that Republicans aren't willing to give up more of their money to give out more
free things that were never allowed for in the Constitution for them to give
away.
My mind works like
this on some big, controversial issues:
Is there man-made
climate change or are the fluctuations from the sun's 11 year natural sunspot
and activity cycle? It's inconclusive. No doubt a zillion exhaust pipes aren't
good for my lungs or nature though. Democrats will make life currently more
difficult with higher gas prices (by design) and a big push for cleaner air
which is a win for an outdoor enthusiast like me. Bottom line is that it is
better for my kid’s future, the world's future and God's creation and that wins
it for me on this issue.
HUMAN REPRODUCTION & POPULATION CONTROL
Do humans have a
natural right to procreate? What about adoptions and foster kids? Does God
create people infertile just so they can help care for orphans? One of my
daughters has Down syndrome and can't procreate. Women spend hundreds of
thousands on in vitro fertilization instead of adopting an orphan. That doesn't
make sense. Is abortion ok in certain circumstances? Never? Always? Why is China doing so
well with their one child policy that they basically own our Country? Does it
make sense (we need major social change in the poor community) to have poor
women in America
having 6 kids with 6 different dads? Why does America have exponentially higher
birth defects and special needs each year? Is it because we don't abort as many
children as other countries and bad genetic lines are degrading the gene pool?
Genetics are real (how to reconcile it with God creating each person in the
womb I don't know) - I've studied it closely to learn why my child has too many
chromosomes. How do you talk about great and terrible genetics without
offending people? Should the future involve eugenics? Clearly whatever America is
doing right now is causing our children have higher and higher percentages of
birth defects and autism. The whole topic puts Christians on edge but does God
make deformities on purpose? Is a pro-life policy solely based on Psalm 139?
Why would we ever want to "force" a woman to carry a stillborn or a
person that will die upon arrival? It's such a hard subject to contemplate when
real lives are involved. Clearly the physical process of abortion is disgusting
and atrocious!!!! Clearly a "fetus" has their own DNA, fingertips but
I guess the question that Democrats would have to explain is when is the Soul
created to not classify it as murder? But if that is not the case and access to
air is the reason (hence late term abortions suck brains out in the womb so the
baby can't breathe) then can we freely kill CPR patients? Can anyone know...?
What is mercy? Who is the mercy focused towards? Democrats focus on mercy
ministry for the woman. Republicans focus on mercy ministry for the unborn
baby. Who's right? Before modern medicine was invented with fancy NICU's, my
daughter would have had almost zero chance to live. Is that God's abortion to
ensure appropriate genetic survival? I think about this all the time… is the
extreme rise in all of the diseases and special needs children because we're
saving babies against God's plan? If so, is it a sin to do what he was already
going to do through nature? Why would he create a child just to die? I'm 50/50
on the fence on this issue. I can see both sides and understand them
personally.
WAR
Is war ever good? Have
you read the Old Testament? It's gruesome and awful. Was God protecting a better
strain of people; or a more faithful people? Clearly chosen because of Abraham,
but it's inconclusive. Can people have genetic superior spirituality and can faithfulness
be passed down? Why would he kill off whole civilizations otherwise? Maybe it’s
because the Sons of God (Angels) came into the Daughters of Men and diverted
the natural order? Well that's the best Christian argument I've heard for
Noah's Flood. I'd still be mad at God even if I believed that story. How do
black people, Asians, Scandinavians, etc come from 8 people? It's the age old
"we believe in micro evolution but not macro evolution debate". I'm a
local flood guy, by the way. But should we kill off those in our way? Are we
justifying what happened to the Native American Indians? God wants the most
faithful to slaughter everyone? That's evil. What about wars in order to
protect the weak from tyrants? How do you know who you can trust? In Syria right now
both sides are committing unspeakable acts. This is the exact reason why we've
been stuck with tyrants in power even after we put them there (Saddam, Karzai,
House of Saud). Republicans want preemptive strikes and say Democrats are weak
for negotiating peacefully. WWJD? Clearly the Muslim world and Western world
will never be culturally compatible, so why not live and let live. If they want
to live a certain way (as evidenced by the elections of Islamist governments
during the Arab Spring) then it's not the job of our Government to be fighting
them. That's the job of the Church. I'm 50/50 on the fence on this issue to. We
have to protect our borders from attack (R win), have a strong deterrence
(Both), but negotiate if AT ALL possible (D except Obama because of secret kill
list).
The Economy is clearly
in the bag for Republicans. Democrats are funny thinking higher taxes with a
middleman (the Government) and then subsidizing certain businesses is a way for
economic growth. Obama has no clue about the economy. Romney has been
successful at everything he's done. I do think the Government should invest in
new ideas to spur new markets so I disagree with Romney about that -unless they
offer tax advantages for successful ideas but that would be hard to quantify.
Businesses will not want to come here for higher taxes and unions and stricter
environmental regulations. They will not want to buy our stuff if we punish
them through tariffs. Democrats don't get it at all on this. Republicans win
this category by the biggest margin of all my categories.
HEALTHCARE
Is healthcare a right?
Why did Jesus wait four days for Lazarus? To specifically show divine power as
a testament to faith in his message. Complete trust in the Father's love and
certainty of Salvation. Does it make sense to spend hundreds of thousands on a
terminal patient so they can have a few more months of misery? Shouldn't we
point them to divine power and give them so hope or peace? That's the main
fault of the Church: even Christian people aren't satisfied with salvation
enough to not want to endure hell before heaven. We shouldn't be afraid of
heaven enough to waste our children's inheritance on roughing out a chance of
another couple months? Does it make sense to drive up our debt to keep someone
brain dead alive on a respirator? God is merciful and just in his dealings with
each person. On the other hand, I'm glad that people have access to care now.
Yes prices will rise and appointment times will be longer but when I think of
middle aged people who lose a job and can't get some condition covered again if
COBRA runs out, that breaks my heart. I'm also mad at the Republicans for not
doing ANYTHING during their time in power while my personal insurance prices
rose way beyond my pay raises. However, it is very irritating that not one
Republican voted for this Obama care Bill and it was done in a very shady way.
Bottom line: I say leave it in place and modify it as necessary through
amendments or the Courts so Edge Democrats.
I prefer to have the
government continue maintaining Medicare and Medicaid. Both actually really
help my daughter. Her whole life is better and ours is easier. I prefer the
democrat plan slightly but don't see a reason why vouchers wouldn't work if
done right.
UNIONS
Do unions make sense?
Explain how that's different than organized extortion. There are so many laws
to keep things fair: OSHA, Child labor laws, FMLA, etc. How can we keep making
sense of the NEA's protection of bad teachers? I don't want to hear a teachers'
union complain and lobby all the time for keeping the status quo. The American
Education system is terrible. For all the money involved, the only reason why
we are falling behind the whole world in education is because of our system.
Having 5 deans and multiple principals all making twice as much as teachers is
ludicrous. The local school boards need more power and the feds shouldn't say
we all need to adhere to some dumb standard test. Teaching for tests never
involves changing a child's life. Think of the best lessons you've ever
learned. Teaching for test stores information in short term memory. No wonder
teachers hate teaching. My mom and sister are teachers and they can't modify
their own lesson plans. For me, Republicans have a big edge in this issue.
GAY RIGHTS
What is the role of
our Government as it relates to LGBT issues? Are they citizens or not? Should
Christians oppose it based off two scriptures and Sodom
and Gomorrah in
the bible? Or are we just freaked out by it because we just can't think like
that. Have you ever wondered why some gay men are so feminine and some gay
women are so masculine? My theory is that the rise in homosexuality is both a
testosterone related issue/genetic related issue with improper hormone
production and a social issue of too many single parents trying to raise the
opposite sex child by themselves. A woman can't model proper manhood to a boy but
perhaps if there was a mentor in his life he could see a decent example and
vice versa. Should we force them into hormone therapy and counseling? How
should Christians love them like Jesus would/does? He didn't turn away people
from his ministry… his only requirement was that they be sincere in seeking
him. What is the only requirement in the bible about salvation? Is it to
"believe on Jesus and renounce your homosexuality"? I know it's a
hard issue and I actually have a gay sister that I love very much. She said
she's always felt that way… who am I to say you can repent of your genetics? I
don't think the Government should make laws against the whole issue (with some
pseudo similar Civil Union mandate to protect "Marriage") and I think
that Government shouldn't be in the marriage business period. A marriage is a
promise of two people together before God, not the government's certificate. I
think the solution to the whole problem is to revise the tax code to treat
everyone as an individual and let whoever wants marriage marry and let God
decide whose promise he accepts. Also, with divorce rates so high even amongst
Christians… there's no moral authority. Slight advantage Democrats but I don't
want it shoved in my face so often by them.
EDUCATION
Clearly America should
completely alter our higher education system. Many kids go, take out huge loans
and go get drunk everyday and study a major that doesn't benefit society
whatsoever. I appreciate what Democrats have done with respect to Pell Grants
and lower student loan interest percentages since my wife is currently in
school studying Nursing. That is a smart idea to do. That solves a lot of
problems at once. It helps allow poor folks to get out of the societal rut
which propagates itself generation after general of illegitimate children, drug
use, and prison sentences. The Government has to step in a give social welfare,
housing, food stamps, cell phones, and childcare for them generation after
unsuccessful generation. Education can give them a way out. Community Colleges
should be subsidized more by state governments. If a person is smart enough to
get in, then they are a useful member to society. We need to build the
usefulness of Society to help our Country gain economically against other
countries. Universities should be treated similarly but useless majors
shouldn't be allowed. Alcohol and drug testing could be required of anyone
receiving student aid. Advantage Democrats.
Those are the major
issues that I see and that matter to me, my wife and our kids. It is a tough
choice and I'm undecided still. I encourage you to pray honestly, to try not to
vote selfishly, and to do as your soul dictates.
NOTE: We ask that you be mature and
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over these topics and know that everyone has their own opinions. As a
precaution, all replies will be reviewed first before being posted. Thank you
for reading and have a blessed day.
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Thursday, November 1, 2012
Smooth Seas
Smooth Seas do not make Skillful Sailors.
I recently started working on a new project
for my work. It was an old hospital, so you get to see all of the old rooms
from the Psych ward, to the maternity area and so on. I found it interesting
that the stairways had pictures of calm scenes and the walls along the steps
were lined with quotes. Of all the quotes, this one stood out to me the most.
I'm no sailor by any means, although I think my cousin is, but this quote
really applies to all of us in more ways than we think. In a lot of cases in
life, we learn the most through hardship. Not always, but a good portion.
Sometimes we have to be taken down an unexpected path in order to realize
something about ourselves. Something that has maybe always been there, but now
plays a bigger part due to the 'rough seas' you just encountered. There are
other times when we learn some life skills through calm events, but I'd go to
say that it is not as often. Here are some areas where the rough seas have
taught me some valuable lessons in life.
COLLEGE was not a smooth sea for me. I knew, in the back of my
mind (way back there), that the college I chose was the right path for my life.
The hardships included; being hours away from home, keeping my relationship
with my girlfriend going (who is now my wife by the way), waking up at 6 am to
start each day and keeping my grades up. This was not your typical college
either; it was actually a trade school for guys only. I went for three long
years and it seemed much longer than that. Every so often I would have to
remind myself that it would be over soon and it would all be worth it. Deep
down I was learning how to handle the rough seas and become my own man, on my
own. At the end of the three years, I landed a great job that I would have
never imagined and I married my longtime girlfriend a few months after that. I
thought the seas would be smooth from then on and boy was I wrong.
MARRIAGE was a sea that I had
never sailed before. For years I thought marriage would be the answer; I'd have
the woman of my dreams and I would have a great job. We quickly found out how
hard marriage was and also how selfish we were, and the storm waters were
rising. As we walked out our life, it became more of a blame game marriage.
Each month was new problem and a big fight. These calm seas were getting mighty
rough, and quick. After a few years of struggling, I wanted out of my marriage.
I thought I had got it all wrong and that going back to the single life would
be the answer. Low and behold, we only had to look in the mirror to see who the
problems were; it was us. It was shortly after this moment that Christ started
to intervene in our marriage and started to show us what real marriage meant.
Real marriage starts with Christ! It all starts with Him! As the clouds moved
away and the waves calmed down, we both realized how wrong we had been for so
very long. These were some rough times in our marriage, but it made us stronger
and a better couple. We didn't give in like most couples are doing these days
and we are better off for it. We have become some pretty skillful
"sailors" in our marriage, but it took work to get there and it takes
work to maintain.
The point is that sometimes we have to go through hard times in
life and learn from those hard times, before we can really appreciate what life
is all about. I always have to refer back to Jesus and all the hard times he
encountered during his time here. He was mocked, beat, betrayed, lied to and so
much more. But he reigns victorious! He is there during those rough seas and he
always will be. Don't forget it.
Share your story of how some rough seas turned your life around.
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