First discovered in 1781 and finally perfected in 1783, tungsten
became a material much stronger than your average steel. Despite its strong
characteristics, it didn't play a major role until World War II. Its robust
nature and very high melting point made it key in the arms business back then.
Tungsten has also been called "heavy stone" and can also be called
"wolframite". Just from those two optional names make it sound quite
strong. Its modern day uses are a little more widespread though. Tungsten can
be found in light bulbs, heating elements, rocket engines and on my finger.
As my wife were
anticipating our big day (marriage). We, like all other couples, had to find
our perfect rings. I had never really thought it was a big deal to find
"the right ring". I figured it could be something that was simple and
not flashy (my wife would agree that that is my overall style). No jewels,
nothing shiny, just simple. I looked around without much effort and my fiancée
(now wife) mentioned getting a ring made of tungsten. It sounded expensive, but
I took it into consideration. She told me that the advantage with tungsten was
it would not scratch. She also told me that if it something happened and they
needed the ring off, they might have to take my entire finger. But, like any
good man would, I avoided that point. My work involved using tools and handling
materials on a daily basis, and the last thing I wanted was for my
"investment" (ring) to get damaged only after a few years of use. I
agreed on the tungsten, not flashy of course, and we made the purchase. I would
go into her ring process, but I don't have the space :)
Why does all of
this matter? A ring is on your finger to make a statement. In my case, it says
"I'm married, so hands off", or something like that. I think most men
wear them because it is a part of the process. But women wear them for much
different reasons. There's is a very BOLD statement and they love it. When I
look at my ring that I have been wearing for over six years now, I am amazed at
how strong it is and how great it still looks. Tungsten is the real deal.
Tungsten reminds me of myself and my marriage. The very, very minor surface
marks are there from the years, but it still looks great. Life is full of
"surface scratches", but we must march forward. We must have the
weight of a "heavy stone" to not give in to the pressures. And we
must have the tenacity of a "wolf" to make it past some of life's
battles. When I look at my tungsten ring, I know that it is around for the long
haul. It's not going to get heavy damage. It's not going to scratch easily. I
want to be a Man of Tungsten for my God, my marriage and myself. The reminder
is always there and I look forward to growing old with it by my side.
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Ring Credit: This ring can be found at SavoryStone.com. A great gift idea for the man in your life.
I enjoyed reading this blog post. It is refreshing to know that some men are still proud to wear their wedding band and view it as a privilege, not as a "ball and chain". If only all marriages could out live the life of their wedding rings.
ReplyDeleteI pray that more couples can see marriage, as well as their spiritual lives, as a life long covenant instead of bailing out at the first sign of hardship. I know from experience that your relationship with God, as well as your spouse, can be wonderful and fulfilling if you work hard and persevere through the hard times.
As long as you choose to consistently nurture your relationships they will continue growing and will become more and more beautiful with each passing day.