Wednesday, April 11, 2012

A Husband's Eyes

Do not lust in your heart after her beauty 

   or let her captivate you with her eyes.
Proverbs 6:25

Before I was a married man, I did not really worry about my eyes and where they wandered. I wasn't married, so I didn't think it mattered if I looked at other women. I let my eyes move as they please and find what they liked. There are a few problems with this mentality though and I would like to dig into them a little further.

HABITS> Habits are nasty little things that we often do and get real comfortable with. Habits are one of the main topics when it comes to Manturity and truly handing over your life to Christ; and it's for good reason. Before your married men, this is what you do; it's what I did. The world and all of its "pleasures" are certainly of no help to us as we try to break these habits. From the music, to the movies to the people around us; there is no shortage of lustful influence. But you have to stop and think now. YOU'RE MARRIED! You're no longer that single guy with the busy eyes, and you're no longer available. You have to come to terms with this idea, the idea that you have handed over your heart to the woman of your dreams and she is to be your desire along with Christ. She is the one you are to want, to have and to love tirelessly though the good and bad. Nobody put the words of the VOWS in your mouth and forced you to speak them, you said them willingly and now you have to MAN UP and live up to them each and every day. Proverbs 6 is mentioned above and has many other great points though out the chapter. Give it a read and see where the verses fit into your life. Lust is a nasty thing that we men deal with and deal with we must. Re-access your habits, review your influence and check your desire. 

I had to have a major life check after I got married and realized I still struggled with some of these old habits. I had to learn that my eyes were for my wife and my wife only. I am not saying I am perfect at this process, but with the help of Christ and daily reminders, I am able to stay strong and watch myself more carefully. Challenge yourself if you are struggling in this area or know of other men who are and make it a point to defeat the darkness of lust. I have become a better man because of realizing my habits and a better husband to my wife! Explore your heart, ask Christ to show you where you need help and ready your heart for what He has to say. 

But a man who commits adultery has no sense; 

   whoever does so destroys himself.
Proverbs 6:32


  1. Good post. "I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin? Job 31:1

  2. I'd say that is the most common sin of us guys, while jealousy is the most common of women.

  3. Very interesting blog, I will be back to read more:)

  4. Thanks for sharing your thoughts everyone. This is a common issue with men and something we have to continue to fight against.

  5. This is an excellent post. I am not married but that is one of my prayers out of many for the godly man the Lord will send to me one day. I know this is a major area of weakness for the men & satan loves to use this as a destroyer of courtships and marriages. I remain encouraged because the Lord is raising up GODLY men during this season. It's time for all of GOD's MEN OF VALOR & PRIESTS to RISE UP and fulfill God's purpose for their lives. Hallelujah!!!

  6. Thanks for the great reply and the passion! It is so true that the enemy is alive and constantly attempting to destroy true manhood and marriage. Thank you again!

  7. Hey Bryan, in case you have not found this book, I figured you'd like to check it out. It's called Manvotionals. It's on Amazon.

  8. Jason, thanks for the hit. I actually got the book for Christmas. The Art of Manliness is a great website! I still need to read though..