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Monday, March 11, 2013

CONCEPT MAN


Any good man can appreciate the lines, curves and special features of a new concept car. As a young boy, I would love to look at car magazines in the store and see the latest and greatest cars that "might" come out to the market. 15 years ago when I was reading these magazines, I thought there would be flying cars by now and space rockets sitting in people's front yards. We can all dream I suppose...

Speaking of dreams, is the rough and tough man of the past just a concept anymore? Have the lines of manhood been blurred and confused by powerful advertising empires? Have the lines been crossed in television shows that show the male or husband figure to be nothing more than a klutz? What do we do about these problems? We introduce a shiny new "concept man".

Set up the stage. Invite the crowds, the unbelievers, the doubters, the curious ones and the supporters. It's time to rethink manhood and introduce the Concept Man.

Pay attention to the front, he's about to come out. Insert your name. Que the applause, the hews and the haws. Out front now, he proceeds to tell everyone...

The New Features of Manhood:

Christian. Yes, he's a Christian. The unbelievers look at each other with, well, unbelief. He doesn't waver in his words or in his first feature declaration. He proceeds to walk around and tell the crowd why; they listen closely. He can tell they're interested. A Christian man has values, he tells them. Offended? He is a man that lives for things like faith, love and sacrifice. He looks to the past to find his vintage, but long lasting manly values. He takes on the persona of the man himself, Jesus Christ. He is not intimidated, he is not afraid.

He continues and tells them that by believing in Jesus he has a real purpose; a real sense of something bigger than himself. He tells them all that the Christian man is selfless. He knows that he comes in second place. He puts others before himself. He gets out his crisp "new man sticker" (you know, like a new car would have on the window) and it clearly reads that he puts his family, his wife, his children first. The doubters had to stop shaking their heads due to the proof in their face. They worried at what other features this concept man was going to show him next. He stopped walking around and took a knee to pray.

Purity. Yes, he's not a man influenced and blindly led by the pornography industry. The curious ones in the watching crowd start to laugh and almost turn away. He again shows them the new man sticker and they stop in their tracks. "There is no way men in this culture can abstain from this industry", they say. The man, again, holds his own; convinced that this feature is one of his best and clearly one of his strongest. Immediately the crowd sends a beautiful woman to the stage. She struts around him with intense confidence that he will look her up and down and fall victim to her false beauty. What does the man do? He closes his eyes and looks toward the ceiling; no he looks towards his God for strength.

This is the time that the supporters started to stand up and, well, support. These were the men in the crowd that believed in the same thing as this Concept Man. These were the men that said they would join in the cause and help him promote this radical new idea. With multiple men on the stage now, the crowd could see that what they were looking at was not merely a Concept of a Man, but rather a concept that was coming to light and would change the way the world would look at men. Forever.

Check out Part two: The Interview

Are you a Concept Man?
Check your sticker and add more features:

Friday, June 15, 2012

1 look, 2 look, 3 look, More!



I've read the articles about men and their problem with lust, adultery and more. I've experienced the fall myself and have heard of and seen many men fall into dark traps that deal with these issues. But where does it stop? Can it be stopped? And how? 


 The idea with the title is simple. It all starts with that first look. The first look, in my opinion, happens by chance or by the turn of the head. But the web really begins with that second look. Once that second look happens, your web starts to grow. You somehow allow or convince yourself that what is happening is 'suddenly' acceptable. This look is more involved and takes in a lot more information; height, weight, skin, etc. This, of course, allows that greedy third look at her. This may not be at the same moment as the first few looks, but it may happen shortly thereafter or maybe the next day. The third look is intense and convincing. This is the look that causes a married man to question his marriage. This is the look that opens your heart up and allows the little pieces of her to slowly seep in. This is the look that leads to the final stage which is 'more'. More is of course the most dangerous and can cause the most damage. More ends marriages. 'More' makes you do irrational things and makes you loose your typical senses. More is you completely tangled in a large, well built web that is difficult to get out of leads to big problems.


Life is certainly a tangled web that we have to crawl through each day. I always refer back to the enemy, because I truly believe that he inserts that female at the right moment, knowing that we'll be attracted just to test us. Just to see if he can start the process of the 'looks'. Once he can work his way into your heart, the process begins. This is simply a sport to the enemy and he is always looking for new players.


I say all this because I have been there, still fight the battle with the enemy and have found ways to cure it. The curing process is not easy and not always a fast process, but it is a process that needs to start now. It doesn't matter what stage of 'looks' you are on or how deep you are in, you have to begin to heal. The first step to healing is CONFESSION. I know, this is not the first nature of a man to admit that he is or was wrong, but that is the first step. Confession is a two step road. The first one is to find a friend. Find a friend from Church or just a friend that you can trust and open up your heart. Tell him everything that has happened or even fears of what you think will happen and be completely honest. A good friend will not judge at this point, but should aim to simply listen and advise if possible. Maybe you know of someone who has been through these issues and made it through? This would be a great person to talk to. Set up a personal meeting with your pastor and work it out with him. There are a lot of options to consider in this process, but you have to be WILLING to take the first step. The second part is to confess your sins to Christ. None of us are perfect, we all make mistakes and He knows. Ask him for his guidance and assistance and continue to ask him daily. Ransomed Heart, led by John Eldredge, has an awesome Prayer for Sexual Healing. Read this, study it, and pray it each and everyday and watch the amazing power of Christ heal you and your life. 
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"When tempted, no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. -James 1